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A woman says her husband has moved out after their home renovations went $55,000 over budget
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The woman admits that she’s the one who pushed for the renovations, and that the costs have demolished her husband’s savings and investments
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The woman shared her story on a popular community forum — where a number of people said they think her husband was right to have left
A woman’s husband has moved out after major tension over the cost of a home renovation, and she’s not sure what to do next.
The woman detailed her story in the “Am I Being Unreasonable?” forum on the U.K-based community site Mumsnet. In her post, the woman said that she and her husband purchased a home “earlier this year,” and that while they spent more than they “would have liked,” they can still afford the monthly payments.
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However, she went on to say that they underestimated some home renovation costs, explaining that they budgeted about $80,000 for renovations that ultimately cost at least $135,000.
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Woman doing home renovation (stock image)
“The house is very dated and needs updating, but [my husband] has become increasingly bitter at the cost and placed the blame on me,” the original poster (OP) said.
She revealed that he had to use his retirement savings and sell off his employee shares to fund the renovations, and “regularly” resorts to calling her “names.”
“He stayed in the spare room for weeks but finally moved out back to his parents,” she said, adding, “I don’t know what happens after this — will the house be sold off? We are sitting on a very significant loss if we sell it now.”
In a follow-up to her initial post, the OP said that while she has a job, her husband earns “much, much more,” meaning that he was the one paying for the bulk of the renovations. She also admitted that she got “carried away” with a home designer and that she was the one pushing for many of the updates, despite the fact that her husband often seemed unsure about them.
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A number of the woman’s fellow community members said that they understand why her husband is so upset, and many said that they, too, would have walked out.
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“I think you need to be honest with yourself,” one person said, adding, “If you’d taken on this project yourself, you would have had to rein in your spending because you simply wouldn’t have had the money. But you didn’t. You weren’t sensible. You just saw his savings as yours to blow when you got carried away. I’d have left, too. I simply couldn’t trust you anymore.”
“You’ve prioritized having an Instagram house over your marriage. It isn’t difficult to understand why he’s left,” said someone else.
Others said that they think the OP needs to decide if she wants to save the relationship, and if so, she should make that her main priority now.
“Just remember it should be your relationship and what you are building for the future that’s the priority — not fancy designers, etc.” one person said, adding, “I would get back in touch with your husband and put things right if it’s the relationship you care about.”
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